What kind of mother do you want to be?
This question came to me when I posted a recent response from Jada Pinkett-Smith, that went completely and utterly ape. With over 19,000 likes, 2,800 shares, and 948 comments, it seemed to raise some serious questions and tugged at a few’s heart-strings. But as for me, it had more of a spring-board effect which had me pondering just what kind of mother I wanted to be.
In case you missed the original post on the Little Miss Mama’s Fan Page, here is how it went:
When Jada Pinkett-Smith was asked why she let her daughter Willow, shave her head, this is what she said: “This subject is old but I have never answered it in its entirety. And even with this post it will remain incomplete. The question why I would LET Willow cut her hair. First the LET must be challenged. This is a world where women, girls are constantly reminded that they don’t belong to themselves; that their bodies are not their own, nor their power, or self determination. I made a promise to endow my little girl with the power to always know that her body, spirit, and her mind are HER domain. Willow cut her hair because her beauty, her value, her worth is not measured by the length of her hair. It’s also a statement that claims that even little girls have the RIGHT to own themselves and should not be a slave to even their mother’s deepest insecurities, hopes, and desires. Even little girls should not be a slave to the preconceived ideas of what a culture believes a little girl should be. More to come. Another day.”
With the reactions that I got from this post, both positive and negative, myself along with 10 other amazing mama blogger decided to ask ourselves, this same loaded question, what kind of mother’s do we want to be? I am the first, of the eleven bloggers, to scratch the surface of our personal motherhood desires. I am almost certain that this is a Blog Train you mother’s or mama-to-be’s are not going to wan’t to miss. Sparking conversions, internal thoughts, and personal promises, this is a great way to give yourself something to chew on. A starting point on what kind of mother you desire to be.
Sitting down, and getting this all out on paper, posed to be very interesting to me. A lot of describing words poured out of me, ink to paper. It was incredible really… just to see what I wanted for Sofia, for me, for my family.
What I feel that it all boils down to, for me, is a perfect combination between mother and best friend. Not always a welcomed idea by others, I believe that if the recipe bodes well, mixed just right, like the perfect chocolate chip cookies recipe, I will create a heavenly-sweet mother daughter relationship. With discipline, respect, and loads of positive encouragement. A healthy dose of love, understanding, patients, and fun. I can only hope that Sofia will grow up with enough respect, confidence, and explosive passions to follow her most wildest dreams. As I do plan to sketch up boundaries where they are needed, I want Sofia to be her own person, strong enough to give her opinions, and smart enough to know she’s entitled to them. Passionate enough about her dreams to worry her daddy, but wise enough to know she can do anything she puts her mind to. But what I want most of all for Sofia, is for her to know that anything she chooses to do, I am behind her the entire way. I will be a open-minded enough to let her go, growing into the woman she is supposed to be, but affectionate enough to show her she is not taking this journey alone.
This is the mother I strive to be.
Interested to know what kind of mother you strive to be, post your comments below, sharing what you want for your babies, what kind of mother you want to be.
What kind of Mother will you be? Blog Train Schedule
Wednesday, Jan 23 – Melissa from The Thirites Grind
Monday, Jan 28 – Eschelle from Mumfection
Monday, Feb 4 – Brandee from One Crazy Kid